so um yeah
we were stonedly discussing some stuff about parallax
then the subject drifted
and suddenly nick was proposing marriage
and it was mostly for legal reasons, we are pretty much married in all but name at this point but
holy shit did that conjure up some feelings
because “marriage” has a lot of shit tangled up in it
then we went back to talking about parallax but yeah i guess this is the day i got a marriage proposal and said yes
we are so not getting married anywhere near valentine’s day holy shit no
A big part of the shit that marriage has tangled up in it is the fact that Washington is a community-property state. And that *always* fucks over somebody.
A pre-nup will definitely be a thing I suspect. Washington’s laws may not matter to us too much longer if some of our plans work out, we keep toying with moving to sunnier climes…
(edit: and actually now that i’ve read a quick overview of what ‘community property’ is it really doesn’t sound too far afield from how I’d wanna handle our finances anyway. But I should probably find a lawyer to talk to about this stuff at some point.)
Oh wow, uh, congratulations I think?
Confabulations, anyway.
Yeah, I think congratulations. Thanks!
Congrats from another member of the “suddenly getting married after a complicated relationship for forever or so” clan!
Seriously wtf just “oh we should get married someday”
Thanks!